From rage to peace

Taking part in a “Bright Home” group helped six sisters to overcome their rage at having “nothing to lose”, finding peace and boldness to take risks to improve their future, inspiring others to come alongside them in their efforts. Their story starts however, with poverty, bereavement, abandonment, and vulnerability.

The sisters live in remote village in Punjab, Pakistan, where Amplifying Voices Pakistan recently started the “Roshan Ghar” (Bright Home) sewing centre, at which women can develop new skills and exercise their voice in addressing community matters.

After the first batch of participants enrolled in the Roshan Ghar training, the class teacher gave an update to Hazeen Latif, CEO of Amplifying Voices Pakistan. She told him one of the participating families is very poor and have neither enough to eat each day nor a bread winner in their family. The girls are known locally as “Six-Sister”. Two of them met the criteria to attend the sewing centre. The others wanted to enroll too but they were too young.

A few years previously when their father had died, poverty pushed their mother into leaving them behind to go and re-marry. The youngest of the six was only 3 years old at the time. Their mother lives a few km away from their village with her new husband who already has several children. The girls used to say that they hated her. Two of the girls come to the sewing centre regularly for lessons. The younger ones also come along with them as there is no one at home. They leave their home door open as it is broken. They don’t have any worries about not locking their home as they say “we have nothing to lose”. There is nothing in it that anyone would want to steal.

When they started coming to class, the middle girl asked the teacher, “Where is God for us? We live in one room which leaks when it rains. The rainwater not only comes from the roof but also through the walls. Even our floor level has sunk down. We have only one bed made locally from grass rope and a another smaller bed which is broken, where my elder sister sleeps. We often go to bed hungry, and we all sleep on one bed squeezed, unable to turn right or left. There is no extra thing to sit on or just for hanging out. Winter and summer are both a challenge for us. Where is God’s love for us? Many men young and older come into the house saying they want to look out for us, but we can tell in their eyes, their intentions are bad. We have an uncle, but he is also poor. Still, he feeds us and supports us from time to time.

However, more recently they say that they thank God for Roshan Ghar as they found respect and something to learn. “People gave us their used clothes but now, after Roshan Ghar sewing centre, one day we will wear new clothes.”

During the Roshan Ghar sewing classes, participants also listen to programmes on speakerboxes. The programmes are produced by members of their community with support from Amplifying Voices Pakistan. In addition to topics that directly support the vocational training, speakerbox programmes also include health advice and material for spiritual encouragement. The village has a mainly Christian population so the programmes start with a Christian devotional and later a short message. The six-sisters said Roshan Ghar changed their lives and thinking about God and love. They found peace in their hearts where they had been filled with rage and thoughts of revenge for what life has done to them. One of the girls is studying in a nearby school. She decided to start memorising the Gospel of Matthew.

When Hazeen asked recently how the sisters were doing, the sewing centre teacher said, “When they started coming to sewing centre, they were shy and would stay quiet but now they talk and talk, enjoy what they do, and they’ve also made some good friends.

Amplifying Voices Pakistan offered to support the girls with new locally made beds and a pedestal fan. They also committed to help with fees for the sister who wanted to stay in school. Seeing that some small steps could be a big help, the community also felt inspired to help. The neighbours next door shared their electricity supply as the girls’ own supply had been cut due to non-payment. The elder sister also felt motivated and found a job selling SIM cards for a mobile company. It’s a tough job as she only earns on commission if she makes sales and some days she can come home having sold no cards. But she perseveres.

When Hazeen met them he asked, “what is your dream?”, they all looked at each other and quietly spoke; “we want to live a peaceful life and have our home fixed, nothing more.” The second oldest said “I want to study and study and study this is my dream.”

The little one, the youngest, said nothing but kept smiling.